Single or Married?

One of my favourite song from Penny Tai 单身潜逃, the lyric of the song reflect my feeling very closely.

I enjoy my current life. I am a person who like freedom, and do not like the feeling of being control by someone else. Being a single, I can choose whatever life I want to live.

I'm not a anti marriage type of person. I still believe the happiness of getting married. For a girl, is good to have someone that you can cry on his shoulder if you are upset, someone that can hold you tight and hug you if you need it, someone that really care for you, someone that can go with you through thick and thin etc.

I want to get married, I want to have my own children. But if I cannot find a suitable and reliable guy, I rather being single.

Different World

I watched a movie last Friday. It was a movie took couple of years ago. The story is very simple, it talks about love.

The story itself didn't get my interest, but there is a dialog which attract my attention. The leading actor in the movie said to the leading actress "We are from different worlds, so there is no way we can be together" The leading actress said "Two people came from two different world, and if they are together, means both of them in fact have a new world".

I personally think this is very meaningful. In our life, when choosing our life partner especially, most of us tend to look for someone who are similar with us, i.e. come from same world. Then when we found him/her, we will have to live the same way like we used to live in. I agreed with the new world concept. I think the theory similar with the 1+1=3 theory. It is a result from a synergy effect. So, open up your heart and mind for all kind of possibilities.

Life is full with hope

I always tell my friends, I like babies because I see life is full with hope when I see babies.

My niece, Alyssa is the first grand child of my parents. She is now 6 months plus old. Lots of hair, cute smile, fair skin, innocent, happy baby.....

While everyone struggling with work issues, money, loan, bills, relationship problems...everything is just too complicated. We need some simple and innocent life and while looking and playing with babies, we are able to forget all of the problems that we faced. Just a simple smile from them, just a hug from them, just a kiss from them...even by looking at them, your heart gets melted.

Ever thinking, we borned to this world as an empty glass. Everyday, we put some liquid in the glass. The glass keep filling with thoughts, ideas, happy moments, desires, problems....good or bad, we still need to face them one by one. Some people will choose to face with positive view while some people will face them with worries. And when we try to keep everything to our own, the glass is full. Then, we are hunger of new things as the glass is already full. So, if you need something new to come to you, pour the existing liquid in your own glass. Be positive and keep moving.

New life, new hope. Life is great if we have hope(s).

Fight for...??

There are over thousand people work in my company, and every year everyone must go through the performance appraisal. Each year, 10% of us will group under a separate group whereby there is no increment as your performance is not so good compared with others. (although you meet the expectation on your job scope)

The fighting story begins....everyone fight for projects. Those who are happy with what they have are urge to change their working mindset. It's makes everyone working life hectic.

Life is never easy, and I do not wish to make my life even harder. I am looking for a simple life but working in this company do not permit me to do that. I would like to see progress on me day by day. But definitely, I do not want to fight with others. The way they conduct meeting also like in a war room. Scary right?

Fortunately, I still can be myself in my company. I can see there are rooms for me to improve further. Although sometimes I wonder how long I can stand. At my age, I still can stand the stress level. I believe, the tough gets going even things get tougher.

So, I need to be tougher.

When is your turn?

Does this question sounds familiar? For those who are still single, I think it is. When your friends get married one by one, people around you will ask "hey, when is your turn?"

Well, marriage is a matter between you and your partner. But, it's seems like we need to report to others that when we are getting married. For those who are yet to be attached to anyone, like me, what am I suppose to say?

Recently, my sister and her boy friend urge me to get married. This has make me very stress. I know what I want and I haven't found him. I do not want to get married just for the sake of getting married. Marriage should be something which will come to us naturally when relationship between you and your partner are mature enough and both parties are willing to love each other with any condition.

Parents, friends, relatives out there: please do not ask people this question again especially to those who are still single. I believe, when it's the time, he/she will inform you.